Any sexual contact involves the risk of some type of infection. For this reason, in any sexual contact with a new person, condoms must be used, and this applies to everyone. It is not just the number of partners you sleep with that can increase the chance of infection, but also and mainly the risk group they belong to.
Because polyamorists have more than one partner, and their partners may have other partners, they need to be more cautious. Polyamory is not about one-night stands, however, but rather relationships based on mutual love, which take time to develop, so we are not talking dozens of new partners every year, but closer to two or three regular partners you know well.
If it seems that your relationship is becoming serious, simply get tested for STDs together. This is what grownups should do – openly discuss STDs and get tested if needed. When there is good, honest communication, the risk of infection is significantly lower, and even if one partner gets infected, the other will be supportive.
Monogamists have a false sense of security, thinking “It won’t happen to me; I have one partner who is faithful and therefore clean.” Yet their partner might not know he or she is infected and might infect them. Testing for STDs is necessary at the beginning of any relationship, but while polyamorists are aware of the possibility of infection and take precautions, monogamists live under an illusion. If and when their partner cheats on them (a 25-50 percent chance), he or she may bring to bed pubic lice, syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, hepatitis, herpes, HIV, etc.
Polyamorists have installed an antivirus that runs in the background.
Monogamists have uninstalled it on their wedding day.
Good sex is vital for a healthy body and a healthy mind. With awareness, open communication, and condoms, you can have fun together without fear of STDs.
If you haven’t got tested in the past year, please do a thorough check for venereal diseases. This applies to both monogamous and non-monogamous people.