Imagine the government makes it a law that once you purchase your first house, you must live in it all your life. Not only are you prohibited from changing residence, but you also have to sleep at your own home 365 days a year. There are no hotels, because people are not allowed to sleep anywhere else, not even at a friend’s house, not even for one night.
Some people (I can think of my parents) may feel at home in this situation. I guess they’re lucky to be content living in one place their entire lives, though if their house sinks, they’re more likely to sink with it than move. But if they prefer it this way, who am I to say otherwise.
I believe that most people like to live in one house for some time, say ten years, and, as circumstances change, look for a new place that better suits their needs. Others have an extra apartment or a summerhouse and alternate between their residences throughout the year, which I think is a great way to live.
People have different needs, goals, and lifestyles. It makes sense to upgrade to a bigger house when you have children or if you want to improve your quality of life, yet when it comes to love, it’s often viewed as different, unique, pure, eternal, and free from selfish motives. Surely you can’t compare love to real estate! Unfortunately, this topic view of love is no more than an infantile fantasy that has no grounding in reality.
The reason the average age of marriage keeps rising is that young people today are generally more individualistic than their parents and fear being stuck with the wrong partner their whole lives. In their late twenties, with the clock ticking, they get married as a compromise because their parents pressure them to have children. Then, in their forties, unhappily married with one or more children, they divorce the very person they vowed to love forever a decade and a half ago. 53 percent of marriages in the US end in divorce, 48 percent in Canada, 47 percent in the UK, 43 percent in Australia (source: Wikipedia). These are the facts. Rather than recognize that monogamy is the root of the problem, people seek futile solutions to improve their dwindling, boring sex life in the false hope that their dying love can somehow be resuscitated.
Young people in their twenties and thirties begin to realize this and are afraid of commitment and a routine existence. The divine command advocated by the religious establishment for thousands of years in order to control people through monogamy has become paralyzing at this point in human history, and many eschew traditional marriage, seeking alternatives such as single parenthood or living in communes. A large number of those that are still monogamous by force of habit simply cheat on their spouses.
There is no fundamental difference between a house and a relationship. Both provide basic human needs: shelter and love. If you can upgrade your house or car, why can’t you upgrade your husband or wife? To carry the analogy further, if you can have two houses and three cars at the same time, why limit yourself to one partner? Polyamorists are the millionaires of the world of love, with a wealth of loving relationships. In contrast, monogamy is a limited, poor, artificial institution that was imposed upon us by some partly insane priests thousands of years ago.
It’s time to privatize love.
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Here’s a test for those of you who are engaged to be married: If you can read this article sixty-nine times without losing your mind, then you probably love your partner very much, and you deserve each other, so go ahead and get married. If not, open a profile and look for new loves. It’s free.