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What is polyamory?

What is polyamory?

Polyamory (Poly – multiple, Amor – love)

Polyamory is a word in Latin meaning multiple loves, that is, having simultaneous loving, romantic relationships with more than one person.

People who are polyamorous can be heterosexual, lesbian, gay, or bisexual, and relationships between polyamorous people can include combinations of people of different sexual orientations. People in polyamorous relationships may or may not be married, although people who identify as polyamorous tend to reject the restrictions of social convention of marriage, and particularly, the limitation to one partner.

What is Polyamory?

Polyamory is not an open relationship!

Open relationship (flings)

A sexual relationship with several partners without love or commitment.

Monogamy (Mono – single, Gamos – marriage)

On the other hand, monogamy refers to a state of marriage to only one person, as is well established in our world.

What is Monogamy?

Polygamy (Poly multiple, Gamos marriage)

Another concept, known as polygamy, is the relationship of one man with a multitude of women. It is an essentially chauvinistic system placing the man at the center and viewing women as property. A man may wed several women while his wives are not allowed to. This system was common before the age of monogamy and exists in today’s world in some African and Arab countries. It is illegal in the west.

What is Polygamy?

The truth about monogamy

Monogamy is false love
Monogamous love is usually the main topic of Hollywood movies, but in reality, it is failing, and the statistics support this claim: in the US, for example, half of all marriages end in divorce.

Monogamy hurts your freedom
Monogamy is rooted in the desire of religion and theocracy to create a defined family unit, which can be easily tracked, identified and controlled. For the same reasons, the modern state also adopted the monogamous relationship, which it encourages and sanctifies.

The truth about polyamory

Polyamory fits the very nature of man
It is only natural for people to be able to love more than one person. Furthermore, we are polyamorous from an evolutionary standpoint; it is only thousands of years of monogamous culture that have made us adopt the monogamous outlook that imperils our happiness. Not to mention that if we compare ourselves to the animal kingdom, only 4% of species are monogamous (among them rodents, beavers, bats and pigeons – are you Batman?).

The challenge of Polyamory
Taking up the polyamorous way of life requires boldness and the ability to face the scrutiny of monogamous society, which is rarely tolerant of those different from it.

Despite the challenge, the freedom granted by polyamory allows you to enjoy a multitude of loves and a satisfying and diverse sex life, without the difficulties experienced by many monogamous people.

Polyamory encourages competiveness, innovation and a constant will to improve
Since polyamorists can take up loving and romantic relationships with several people simultaneously- without the commitments and limitations enforced by monogamy- they constantly face competition which forces them to improve themselves at all times in order to keep current partners or meet new ones.

Comparing Polyamory and Monogamy
Polyamory is based on the following traits: honesty, sincerity, freedom and maturity. Polyamory acknowledges the fact that people can fall in love with more than one person, which can only elevate their happiness.

Monogamy is based on the following traits: jealousy, possessiveness, control and immaturity. Monogamy has this fantasy of a kitchen-world where every pot has its lid. It sometimes calls this fantasy “the one”.

Ironically, the level of trust and honesty between polyamorous individuals is usually higher than between monogamous partners.

Polyamory is the future

In a capitalist society, consumers are aware of the various choices they have, and so they acquire services and products from multiple businesses simultaneously. Consumers are not committed to a single product, and they are loyal to the company as long as that product provides sufficient value.

This is also true with polyamory. You apply the principles of the free market since you don’t marry the fictional “One”, falsely believing he or she is the single person with whom you wish the spend the rest of your life. Gradually, capitalist influences find their way into our romantic lives.

Nowadays, polyamorous people are pioneers ahead of their time. We see more and more people discovering that free love is just what makes them happy, satisfied and encourages them to express themselves in positive ways.

Our symbol is a heart with the mathematical sign for infinity. That is to say that we believe in infinite love 😉

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Pleased to meet you! I created this site in order to encourage people to try polyamorous relationships and bring them together. My articles are written with an experience of over twenty years in various polyamorous relationships. I share with you my experience and insight through the numerous relationships I’ve had in the hope you’ll find answers to your questions from someone living a free life. (read more).

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