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This topic contains 8 replies, has 7 voices, and was last updated by Angel Me Monique Gausmann 2 weeks, 5 days ago.

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  • #7171
    Jim Polylover
    Jim Polylover
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    I am willing to date any woman of any age, younger, same, or older, and almost any body type, excepting extremely overweight. I think that I am probably a rare exception in this. What are your limits?

  • #7176

    Anonymous

    Hmmm that’s a great question

    I had to give this a lot of thought. I have neither gender/sex limits nor age limits (provided legal…). I don’t believe I have any body type restrictions.

    However, the more I thought about it, I realized that there may be restrictions based on my lifestyle. I like to get out and about and do things, try new stuff, and I am trying to make my body match all my endeavors, hahaha. So, I guess as long as people can keep up with that, I’m a-ok 🙂

  • #7456
    Janie Knight
    Janie Knight
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    I don’t really have any body types I would say no to, it’s more about the person to me not what they look like, but I am overweight myself so maybe that’s one reason.

    Age wise I wouldn’t say no to someone with an extreme age difference to me, older or younger, but I would have to gibe some thought if they were quite a bit younger, and obviously they would have to be of legal age.

    Generally the majority of my past relationships habe been with partners up to ten years younger than myself. One brief fling (not through lack of wanting more but he did a dissapearong act after 2 dates) was with someone over double my age, i was 23 he was 54.

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    Janie Knight
    Janie Knight
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    Oh can I just apologise if there are any typos. I have dyslexia so sometimes miss them when checking my posts

  • #10102

    Anonymous

    What is the age limit or age difference. Well for me it doesn’t matter if love and understanding is there. My first crush was my teacher who was 20 years older. She was dominating but we loved each other passionately. My wife is 12 years younger than me. We have great time. So for me age doesn’t matter if you are concerned for each other..

  • #13911
    Casey Kaye
    Casey Kaye
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    This is interesting cause I filled out the profile like I was on a dating site looking for a partner rather than sharing friendship and sex. I’ve met people who are incredibly sexy and I would have liked to sleep with them, but whose appearance, dress sense, food choices, personality, all that other stuff ruled them out. I guess one of the nice things about poly will be the opportunity to cherry pick elements of a person without having to buy in to the whole nine yards. This is slightly moving off topic and involving more than just size issues or indeed sex, but I write where the thought carries me.. apologies if needed.

  • #14048
    Liv Blejbach
    Liv Blejbach
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    For me that’s a bit of a funny question because I wouldn’t date anyone who had limits regarding the superficial aspect of another person but surely I would understand if you want to find someone that’s a match when it comes to your mind and lifestyle… Sooo no limits in love

  • #14079
    Casey Kaye
    Casey Kaye
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    Ah Liv, I obviously have some growing to do! On the upside some of my closest friends are Danish lol. I am new to thinking about this but it seems a no brainer to assume the away-from-home elements of a poly relationship are fulfilling elements that are not available at home. Apparently superficial elements have killed off millions of relationships when exposed to them 24/7. Is it necessary to feel acceptance of 100% of “secondaries” character or lifestyle, and would not doing so potentially jeapodise the primary relationship? If one had, for example, a primary partner who was rather serious, it might be nice to find a secondary love who made you giggle, even though their lifestyle away from the shared element happened to be a deal breaker in a primary. e.g. He or She lives on a boat, you get seasick. Personally I am lucky in that I still spend time with both of my lifes ex primary partners, and share love and mutual support with them, but clearly unlucky never to have found “the one” with whom I could be content for a lifetime.

    Coming back to the main question posed by Jim. If we accept that the primary aim of a date is to (ultimately) make love then appearance and to a lessor extent age are bound to be factors, I am not a man who could just fuck anyone, there must be a spark. On the other hand if polyamory love can also be a meeting of minds and the pleasure of loving affection away from the bedroom then personally no, no age or shape limits. In life as it is for me right now this latter approach of widening my friendship base is exactly what I am doing.

  • #14507
    Angel Me
    Monique Gausmann
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    I think that different things about different people are attractive. There needs to be a connection on a physical and intellectual level. I would say that age or body type (ect.) would not be an automatic rule out but would be something to be considered. I have dated a man that I liked as a person very much. I found him attractive and funny, despite a huge age gap. When we started dating I quickly realized that it would never work because we didn’t have enough in common as far as activity level. I connected much more with his daughter on those things. I still think he is a good person and we parted ways on good terms. There are many lifestyle things that are deal breakers for us because they don’t fit with ours.( eg. drugs).I think it is important to date people who you can relate to.

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